I Spy With My Little Eye, Something Beginning With “D”

It was a day like any other. I was still in Bali trying to do as little as humanly possible while continuing to justify my proclamations of being a writer; the only thing giving my drinking any semblance of legitimacy. Sometimes, like right now, it doesn’t come quite as easily as I wish it did.

I’m not sure if this is because I’m not a very talented writer or because I tend to get distracted by, well, everything. Loud noises, fast movement, beer, shiny things, all seem to want to drag me away from my SERIOUS WRITER BUSINESS.

The worst offender, with me being a virile young man in the prime of my life, is girls. Of course. Women. Femme. Frau. Nü. Chica. I like females. I think they’re rad.

So regardless of whether I’m completely and utterly entrenched in the pursuit of something noble, like my earnest attempts at creating a rich lyrical tapestry through words and imagery, if a pretty girl walks into my field of vision my mind instantly shuts down all mental and physical apps not required to maintain life so I’m able to fully admire the transitory aesthetic splendour.

Now I understand there’s a strong possibility that this declaration may come across to some as excessive or vulgar and, to be frank, there’s every chance that that’s the case. But I put this to you: Would you pass up the opportunity to witness an eclipse? Would you choose not to discretely admire its intrinsic and ephemeral beauty?
Not only are they extremely rare; they’re a marvel of goddamn nature and should be thusly appreciated. Like women.

Thus endeth the rant/justification. Or “rantification” if you’re into portmanteaus.

Venn diagram = Best diagram.

With that in mind, I’m writing, or attempting to, in a restaurant/bar/warung while enjoying a delicious plate of assorted seafood and greens, savouring a cold beverage and digging the view of the street that the open design provides me.

The street is delightfully distracting for a self confessed people watcher like me. A never ending cavalcade of interesting shapes and sounds fashioned into human form, all moving about their daily business; more often than not completely unaware that a social voyeur is monitoring their movements/behaviours/exchanges.

The list of the unknowing participants from today’s procession goes something like this…

An inversion of the usual trope: a strapping young Filipino man partnering an aging Australian woman.

A greying couple who are charmingly oblivious to their ridiculously uncool hats.

Chinese tourists by the busload that don’t need to use footpaths.

A Nordic blonde riding uphill on a bicycle. Sans helmet.

Numerous Balinese men fanning away the ever oppressive heat with their handmade “Taxi” signs.

Deeply tanned Anglo girls (always in multiples of two) saunter past wearing daisy dukes, singlets and attitude.

A particularly droopy man with long dirty hair, who looks like the ghost of Alice Cooper, is followed by his rotund Asian wife.

Numerous people contorting and twisting maps into every conceivable combination, like a Rubik’s cube.

A shiny, happy couple speaking some kind of vague Eastern European language I couldn’t quite place.

Middle aged men, looking like overburdened Sherpa’s, following their leaders/wives.

And hundreds of completely unremarkable people not worth writing about.

The aperture of my view allows for a 7 second window into their lives if they’re on my side of the street. A mere 10 steps. Triple that if they’re travelling on the opposite side of the road. You would think that short of hurling expletives or exposing yourself it would be somewhat difficult to offend/disturb a random passer-by in the space of those 7 seconds, or 10 steps.

This is how I inadvertently accomplished that task.

I’m sitting there doing my best to concentrate and ignore the thrall, and failing, when on the very edge of my periphery, I notice a startlingly attractive, buxom, young woman with long dark wavy hair strut by. She’s wearing a pale yellow, off the left shoulder, mid-riff baring, long sleeved top and the tiniest blue shorts I’ve ever seen; complete with golden stars appliquéd to the left cheek. Her shorts are held in place by a rainbow belt, which matches her rainbow socks perfectly. In contrast, a solidly black tattoo of a butterfly could be seen deviously poking out from underneath one of her rainbow socks.

So vivid was the striking-ness of this supremely beautiful girl it almost made me squint, like accidentally witnessing every single part of the suns brightness suddenly trapped in the windshield of a passing car.

She’s followed closely by a man significantly older than her, yet still handsome in his own right. Funnily enough, I take no notice of what he is wearing. Though, due to my admittedly awestruck and subsequently un-stealthy gaze, I notice that he notices my admiration of his female companion.

It happens to the best of us.

As I stated earlier, the window of opportunity for communication is 10 steps maximum. Understand that this all happened within 7 seconds so I’ve broken down and slow motioned the scenario for your reading pleasure.

I’m indefensibly busted. So to dissipate my guilt I give the man paired with this fleeting goddess a nod and slight eyebrow raise to acknowledge his achievement. An expression that (I hope) conveys a respectful appreciation for his partner’s awe-inspiring physical attractiveness. I don’t regularly engage in this awful “wink wink nudge nudge” behaviour but I was just caught ostensibly leering at his partner and this was an act of harm minimisation. Rather, it was supposed to be.

I understand perfectly well that what I’ve just been caught doing may be looked upon as untoward…

Remember!?! We all like a good eclipse!

…but the severity of look this man shot at me was borderline irrational and dripping with disdain. It was a look that said “You are a truly heinous creature and you disgust me.”

I couldn’t understand the severity of it.

I mean, it wasn’t as if I were curb-stomping baby pandas in front of crying children. I was simply, and very briefly, admiring his radiant girlfriend/partner/wife, then attempting to “fix” the situation by being open about it. Perfectly harmless, if imprudent, and not deserving of such scorn.

“Why is he so incensed?”, I pondered.

Then it started to dawn on me. Slowly at first, but building towards an unstoppable moment of horrifying enlightenment.

“Oh”, I thought. Cogs turning…

“Oh shit.”  Almost there…

“That’s not his partner.”  Yes, go on…

“That’s not his partner at all. That’s his daughter.” Bingo! Give the man a prize!!

Not only did I get busted checking someone out, I, seemingly, confidently nodded my approval to her father. Classy.

Shockingly, I wasn’t nominated.

I mean, I might as well have asked him how much it would cost to buy her.

Before I could attempt to atone for my attempted atonement both he and his clearly identifiable and now perfectly understandable scowl were on their 11th step and had moved beyond my frame of vision. Never to be seen again.

This was most likely for the best.

Author: Travis Nevers

Just another random blogger trying to make his way in this crazy world we all share. Sometimes insightful, sometimes not... Read along at home!

84 thoughts on “I Spy With My Little Eye, Something Beginning With “D””

  1. What is interesting to me is that John Venn’s diagrams were first published in 1880 and we are still using them! Interesting blog. Thanks for posting!

  2. As a writer and people watcher, I can commiserate with you on this. I don’t think I’ve ever offended anyone, but I have gotten caught observing people, catching someone’s eye and having to quickly pretend I wasn’t watching them. Little do they know, they’ve probably helped me develop a character or get something moving in whatever story or blog I’m working on.
    In terms of talent, I’d say you have plenty. Maybe distractions aren’t such a hindrance at all. Great post, and congrats on getting Freshly Pressed!

    1. “Little do they know, they’ve probably helped me develop a character or get something moving in whatever story or blog I’m working on.”
      Too true.

      When you think about it, how would people know you were watching them if they weren’t watching you? It’s a rich tapestry my friend!

  3. Having just spend 6 months in Bali, I understand how you could made that mistake! It is so common to see young girls with older men! Anyway, you really made me laugh here!

  4. This is kind of cute. When I read stuff like this though… it’s interesting when guys talk about how they are in such awe of women. And yet their interest is almost as fleeting as the presence of these near-mystical creatures. It’s a strange dichotomy because all I seem to hear among my circle of female friends in their 30s (and experience myself) is that guys may look at you, hit on you and even trouble themselves for some casual comraderie but ultimately most just want to know they can have you. They look up to other men who are able to snag a hot chick. There isn’t nearly as much respect for men who actually take the time to get to know a woman and appreciate more about her than the way her features tickle his fancy. The other day a friend asked me, “Is this really the way people are now?” after she met a guy who went on a few ‘dates’ with her and then asked her advice about a girl he was actually dating. Not every guy does this. But this is what a lot of women are thinking about when they catch you checking them out. There’s the pedestal and the gutter… and not really much in between.

      1. Haha, you’re right.
        That’s kinda why I was apprehensive about responding, though I’ll hazard a “I hope your friend realised that the guy she was dating, who asked for advice about his actual girlfriend, was a knob and not representative of the gender as a whole.” Thanks heaps for taking the time to share.

  5. This reminds me of when I was in some hotel somewhere (I think in France) with my dad and they thought I was his wife! My dad gave the hotel concierge a shocked look and was quick to explain, “No, this is my daughter!” To be fair, it’s hard to tell these days. Older men are always hooking up with younger women and older women with younger men. I remember even being careful with my campers at summer camp because people who I assumed to be their grandparents (who looked to be in their fifties so about my parents’ age) were actually their parents!

    You may have offended the father, but hey, at least you didn’t catcall. It’s one thing to openly stare. We women do it too (but more discreetly). It’s entirely another to take it to the next level and do the catcall thing. (And I don’t mean the harmless “Hola Guapas” I used to get in Spain).

  6. It’s not just you, so don’t feel bad.

    My husband and I recently joined an archery club. Now, we didn’t see the need to produce our marriage lines or anything on arrival. However, if we had, it would have prevented the following short, but devastating, exchange:
    Club member: “It’s nice to see a father and daughter doing things together.”
    Husband: “She’s not my daughter. She’s my wife.”
    Very, very embarrassed silence.
    Club member: “Oh, God.”

    And just think… no seven-seconds-to-oblivion for him!

    1. It’s going to be the defining factor of your relationship with that particular club member. Forever!

      Perhaps if he had offered an eyebrow raise and nod of appreciation…

      1. Not really; neither my husband nor I would dream of holding an honest mistake against someone.

        That’s not to say that we don’t still have a good laugh about it in private, though… 🙂

  7. I, for one, am glad you chose to legitimize you drinking with this bit of writing. Transportative and the perfect antidote for my loss of momentum this afternoon.

  8. What a wonderful piece; hilarious, honest and very well-written. I’m jealous. Not of the girl, or her father, or your experience, but of your ability to tell a rich and lively story that, in reality, spanned across a mere 7 seconds. Bravo.

  9. A good, entertaining read. As a guy (not so young anymore) and a dad with a 17 yr old daughter, I appreciate your position. It’s an awkward thing being caught out by beauty, especially if attempts to fix things only make it worse; luckily they moved on. Absolutely nothing wrong with appreciating women either (I’m not that old). Bruce

  10. Similar situations have happened! I was once at a museum with my dad and two younger siblings. A woman incorrectly assumed they were my “children” and that he was my “husband.” This was perhaps a reasonable assumption, considering my siblings are 15 years younger than me, and some women do like much older men! I was just glad my dad wasn’t around for that exchange, and I was too embarrassed to correct her.

  11. Great story – the “I wish that didn’t happen” scenarios, that later turn out to brilliant talking points or blog posts. Love it!

  12. Every father’s nightmare 🙂 Then again, if this happened in my family in ten years time, I’m not sure my husband would let our daughters out dressed like that 😉

  13. “Not only did I get busted checking someone out, I, seemingly, confidently nodded my approval to her father. Classy.”
    Best punchline I’ve read in a long time! Loved this post – although I got a little lost in translation sometimes. It might just be me and my slow-comprehension skills, but I found it a tiny bit difficult following the words. Maybe try and simplify a little? Just a friendly opinion.. 🙂
    But I loved it!
    And congratulations on getting FP-ed!

    1. Happy you enjoyed it and I do appreciate the candour. It’s not the first time I’ve be busted for being overly wordy.
      Thank you for the constructive input.

  14. i was right there with you (apart from the girl spotting). Not only do I love the fullness of your blog but also the Obama pic. It might just win him the election!

  15. “I mean, it wasn’t as if I were curb-stomping baby pandas in front of crying children.”

    I’m going to use that one in the future.
    Better luck with your battles with concentration and subtlety! 😉

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